Three weeks in!

Happy 3rd Friday of the New Year friends! How is it going for you all, so far ??

So much has happened for me already and I am super excited for more! This post was intendeded for your reading January 1, but life happened, and happened hard. So here we are 3 weeks in!

Let me just say, I am glad we made it to 2019! I’m so excited to see all the motivation and new journeys people are taking on. Big things are happening for so many people and I can’t wait to be apart of some of them.

After missing my deadline on January 1, I figured I’d take the time to grow a list of 52 GOALS, not resolutions. I think I said it before, but I’ll say it again for the people in the back, I don’t like resolutions. They are usually drastic changes that someone wants to make but they set the bar unrealistically high. This leads to a feeling of defeat and self doubt. Naw, I’m good. Been there done that.

Instead I decided to make small goals. Giving myself a year to push and work towards things I keep saying it’s time for me to do. There are 52 weeks in a year…1 thing a week, theoretically. Now, this was A LOT harder than I thought. Most of the things I am trying to accomplish and make a habit, fall into catagories. So I am starting with 25 ( kind of) and will update as time goes on. Here they are:

  1. 52 DIFFERENT dates with hubby, no baby ! We have already done 2 !

  2. 52 self care days, just me, no baby! One is in the bag!

  3. Experience 12 new restaurants (I am a creature of habit)

  4. Grow Bmoore Mom

    a.update website

    b. Consistent posting

    c. Logo

    d. Email list

  5. Grow Bmoore Creations

    a. Website

    b. Logo/ sinage

    c. Consistent Posting

  6. Attend a cooking class or two or three

  7. Attend at least 3 networking events

  8. AJ takes charm city- we go to different events/ places around Baltimore

  9. Begin a moms group- not sure of all details, but moms need support.

  10. Cook through a cookbook, Julie and Julia style !

  11. Read 12 different books

  12. Learn photography

  13. 3 staycations

  14. 1 road trip

  15. Visit the lion brand and purlsoho yarn shops in New York

  16. Find an esthetician and stay consistent- my skin needs loving

  17. Make nine 2019- make 9 projects for myself

  18. 2 styled shoots!

  19. Monthly friend dates

  20. Host a Friendsgiving

  21. Get to my 2014 weight.

  22. Write a will. This is important even if you “think”you don’t have anything. Write one, and update accordingly.

  23. Update life insurance policies.

  24. Enroll back in school

  25. Update and organize filing system.

You still with me?? Good! I hope this was a reminder of those goals you may have set for the new year. I will be checking in monthly to update the list, follow along or don’t. Whatever tickles your fancy.

Before I end, I would love to hear what goals you’ve set for yourself? Are you still setting them, tweaking them? Let me know!

Talk to you soon !

Brit

Five physical things I need to do before 2019!

Hey Friends! Happy Sunday!

I hope I am not overwhelming you with New Year talk, but I have been having so many conversations about my expectations for the rest of the year so I figured, why not share!

Sorry, not sorry !

There are two weeks left in 2018 and I am ready for new beginnings. 2019 is  going to be super different because my life has changed sooo much in just the last few months of the year !

I don’t believe in resolutions, because realistically, I always find a reason to give up on them, so instead I am putting myself in a good head space so I can be intentional and focused come Jan 1.

Here’s how..

1.     Shred papers and purge

I HATE PAPER! But it always finds a way to make it into my space. Whether it is junk mail, bills, brochures, you name it! Time to get rid of it all. Anybody local know of a free shred day coming up? It would save me some time.  

2.     Clear my bags and my car.

Y’all know the song (yes I know, the song has a deeper meaning, but it fits oh so perfectly)…

Bag laddddy, you gone hurt your back!

Dragging all them bags like that.

I guess nobody ever told you

All you must hold onto, is you…

I have a weird connection to stuff. For what? I don’t know. But in the words of Erykah,

Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go! 

3.     New budget

Not only is it a new year, but it is the beginning of a new month, which means a new budget! Time to plan out our finances and get ready for a potential move, wink wink!

4.     Get organized

OMG! I am the most unorganized organized person you will meet! I have a planner, things are color coded, but my spaces are unorganized. For someone who hates clutter, I sure do have a lot of it. I was listening to something the other day, which made me re-evaluate the spaces I occupy.  No need to be messy. It is overwhelming AF.

5.     Rest

Self-explanatory! Who doesn’t need this ? The mental clarity I gain from rest is much needed. Can’t pour from cup that is empty. I’m just saying.

So friends, how are you gearing up for the New Year? Drop a comment, and let me know !

Talk to you soon!

-Brit

Getting it all done.

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Hey friends! It has been almost a month since I launched this blog and I have done exactly what I have done in the past. I guess old habits really do die hard. It is so easy to let life get in the way of what you want to accomplish but at some point enough is truly enough. It gets old and produces a feeling of defeat.  

As a multi passionate person,  I have about 20 new ideas a day and I struggle with doing one thing at a time. I tackle one to many things to hardly accomplish the very first thing I set out to do. Recently, I have realized how unintentional I have been in my day to day and how scatter brained I become.

This takes me back to when I was younger and my mother would remind me daily to FOCUS!

When I was a kid, I wasn’t on punishment, I was on “focusment”. During this time, my mother would tell me to focus on what is important to me and push me to achieve my goals without the distraction of friends and extra activities. I thought she was a little weird dressing up my punishments as a chance to achieve great things, but there was a method to her madness.

See friends, Everything cannot be a priority!

So as I sit here in this restaurant typing these words, I challenge you to join me as I improve my day to day with these steps of “focusment”:

1.Gratitude.

I feel, in order to start something and focus on dreams, you must, first, bring focus to what you have already accomplished and what you have sitting right in front of you. I believe this will eliminate the “ If I could just have this, I would be happy” feeling. You probably could be happy if you start your process with gratitude.

2.Set goals.

No more wishing, hoping, and praying that it will happen. Write it down. What are you trying to accomplish today? Start small with daily goals. Small victories give you the momentum to achieve the big wins.

3.Stop comparing.  

Come on sis, I know you’re doing it! I know I do, and it is exhausting. This is where I am going to struggle. We live in world where we are constantly looking at what other people are doing. Focus on you, your goals, and your family! In my Miranda Priestly voice, “that is all”!

4.Check the facts, and stop caring!

Rachel Hollis’ words keep circling in my head, “someone else’s opinion of you, is none of your business.” So stop caring about it. Keep it moving, and stop limiting yourself because of WHAT YOU THINK SOMEONE ELSE IS THINKING! Half of the time, you’re making up in your head anyway.

5.Go slow!

Remember the tortoise wins the race. You want to get there, but you want to trust the process. Go slow, trust your process. This is not a sprint, it is a marathon.

So friends, write this down, take a picture, or you can bookmark this page (wink, wink)! But just promise me you will stick with the plan.  Need accountability? We have each other.

Talk to you soon !

-Brit

Intuition. Gut Feelings. The Holy Spirit

Intuition. Gut feelings. The Holy Spirit.

We’ve all had that gut feeling that wouldn’t go away. That one idea that just keeps showing up, making its way into your brain space. But you push it away. You couldn’t possibly pursue that profound idea. We stop ourselves because it’s not practical, someone doesn’t approve, or it requires way too much time.

That nudge, that gut feeling, that’s called your intuition. Intuition is your brain functioning on autopilot. It’s making decisions based on your values and desires in life. Its having faith and trusting that God, the universe, and your instinct will not lead you astray.

So let’s begin…

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I met my husband when I was 14 and I specifically remember telling him “I will not be a stay at home mom.” No disrespect to the awesome mamas who take on that role but I was young, and felt at the time, it wasn’t for me. it’s funny how life works out…

Here’s a little bit about me. I am a God-fearing, hardworking, no nonsense, podcast loving wife and mama. For almost half of my life, I worked, and more often than not it was two to three jobs at a time.  There has always been a part of me that wanted to do my own thing. Be a boss babe, call the shots, run the show, and tap into my creativity. But somewhere along the way I lost that desire, that drive, and myself. Life would happen and procrastination would set in.

I started to get uncomfortable. People started to challenge me and my decisions. They would say “ you should do this” and “you should do that”. Each and every time I would have an excuse or agree and never follow through. I would question my abilities and the acceptance of others. I would stress about the income that “new idea” would generate. I would look at social media and think, “I had that idea last week” or “I can’t do that now, because someone else beat me to it.” My cycle would begin again.

I continued to play it safe. I mean realistically, I have a husband and a baby now. I stressed and pushed for a promotion at work. I tried to work more to generate more income. I thought about what people would think of me if I wasn’t further along in my career at this point in my life.  

My mother said quit your job, your situation will allow it. My husband said, quit your job, I got it. God said, be still and focus on what’s important (my family). But my conscious said, “girl get this money.” So I continued to do what made sense, to me.

And then..

The universe slapped me in the face. Not once, not twice, not even three times! Let me begin with this, I am loyal to a fault. I began my job while I was in college and decided to make it my career. I listened to the testimonies of career advancement. You know, “It’s a great place to work!” comments. Don’t get me wrong the job was extremely rewarding and I learned a lot, however, advancement was not in the cards for me. Unfortunately, I did not realize it right away. I applied for the job 4 times. The first time I did not get the job, I chucked it up to lack of experience for that particular role. I listened to what my mentors were telling me and I took action. I followed the plan that was suppose to put me on track to succeed. I set goals and achieved them. I became certified, I graduated from college, and I stepped in for my manager when he was out on vacation and whenever I was asked to. I knew the company inside and out. Not to mention, I built a rapport with my coworkers, managers, and the people I serviced. I was ready! It was time to apply again, but this time I was 8 months pregnant. I know reading this, someone is going to question my decision to apply for the job so late in my pregnancy. I thought about this too, but I would have been set to start the job after maternity leave was over. I was even willing to come back early. I applied and interviewed, twice! Rejected. I took their notes and the advice of my mentor and prepared for the next interview. By the third rejection, I challenged it. Of course, most people do not like to be challenged. I was labeled as angry and aggressive, and potentially black-balled myself. Guess what, I applied again! I knew this was the one. I prepared, brought a new outfit, and applied to work for a different region. Again, two interviews. Again, a rejection. I was over it, but still putting my faith in this company.

Then…

I received a call to come to the office. Human resources was only on a call, or present, if you were being terminated. Naturally, I was nervous. I was not getting fired, but I was told, “After discussion, we do not see you progressing into management with this company, for the foreseeable future.” My thought: WAIT, WHAT?!  The voice continued to talk, and I continued to listen. She finished with “We love you here and we are not telling you to leave, but we understand if you do.” My thought: WAIT, WHAT?! She should have just fired me. I was hurt and angry. I invested so much time with this company. I absolutely loved what I was doing and the people I was doing it for. In this moment, I felt defeated. I went home and told my husband what happened. He took a breath and said, so when are you leaving? I thought hard about the corporate roller coaster, my family, my baby boy, and the stress I was under for this job.

A friend of mine reminded me of the story about the man stuck on the roof during a flood. The man prays to God to save him. During this time, a rowboat, a motorboat, and a helicopter all come to his rescue. He turns them away and says, “no thank you, I am waiting for God to save me, I have faith.” Not taking the help sent, he died.

Sounds familiar?

It was like God was saying, how many times and how many ways can I show you to let it go. So I did something that I said I would never do, I became a stay at home mom.

I thought about my desires and my values. And I am going to take this journey not because it makes sense but because this feels right…

During this season of my life, I am going to own my new roles as a wife and mother and focus on self-care! Talk to you soon!

-Brit